A surface issue that runs deep for many, skincare is a tricky biotch. She is packaged pretty and before you know it, she’s convincing you into dropping half of your bank account on her. And naturally you oblige. I have often times been the victim to her wiles, and a majority of those products don’t end up working for me. My skincare journey has been frustrating to say the least.
For me, skincare goes deeper than the surface. My skin is a huge insecurity of mine. I have texture, visible pores, and stubborn rosacea that just won’t quit. My skin-type is combination currently leaning oily because of the summer heat and humidity. I don’t like to not wear foundation (my post all about that is here). While I do go out without makeup every now and then, it takes a lot of courage. I’m constantly looking at myself in a mirror, thinking about my problem areas, wondering if people are staring at and judging my skin.
Why am I uncomfortable in my own skin?
Coming to this conclusion was tough. Part of the reason is because I involve myself in the fashion/beauty industry every day, and I see countless influencers and celebrities with flawless skin. Rarely do you ever see anyone with a legitimate problem like rosacea or intense breakouts or even pores. When they “break-out”, it’s one tiny pimple you need a microscope to see. It’s so easy, for me at least, to compare myself to these people and wallow in the “why is my skin not like that” mindset. I also think I’ve lack confidence in my natural skin. Everyday I’m constantly putting down its state, and that’s not an easy habit to break.
It’s hard to combat this insecurity, especially because it’s a subject so targeted by celebrity media. At the end of the day, I just have to remind myself that my value as a person isn’t directly related to how my skin looks. It doesn’t speak to anything about who I am as a person, and that matters most.
Good things take time…and your money
If you were to ever watch a Beauty Vlogger/Blogger’s skincare recommendations, more often than not they are pricey. I long ago came to terms with this fact (my credit card, not so much). While it sucks this is the case, many of these products are made with higher quality ingredients and have better science to back up their claims. Finding what works for you will most likely be an expensive and time-consuming feat. You have to decide if this investment is worth it to you.
Know what you’re getting into
The best thing to do before jumping into the blackhole that is skincare is research. Before you buy anything, figure out what skin type you are. The best method I’ve used is to just wash your face normally, but don’t apply any toners, serums, moisturizers, or other treatments. By noon, if you look greasy you’re oily. If your skin feels tight, you’re dry. If you’re a combination of the two, you guessed it, you have combination skin. Being unaware of what skin type you are is the root of the problem for many. Getting it right will help you narrow down which products to invest in. Then, do your research when it comes to ingredients (especially acids!!) because they may not work for you at all or cause even more damage. When changing a product, do so one at a time so you can pinpoint what exactly it does for your skin.
You’re not only spending money during this feat, but also your precious time. Patience is key! On average it takes about 28 days for your skin to renew itself, so it may take that long before you see a product’s results. It’s very rare you’ll see a product instantly work. If you have the extra cash and want to treat yo’self, I highly recommend getting a facial from a licensed esthetician. They have great insight when it comes to product/ingredient recommendations, and it’s always great to have a fresh face!
If you’ve made it this far and are wondering what my current skincare products are, I have them below! I personally don’t mind splurging on skincare because sometimes the good stuff is expensive. It’s essential to figure out if that’s a priority for you. The more things you try the more you’re going to spend, and not everyone has the budget to do so. I’m not going to go into an in-depth review of these products, but I can in a separate post if you’re interested.
My strategy for picking products is less is more. I’ve learned that too many products is a trigger for my rosacea, so finding simple products with solid ingredients and that are meant to nourish the skin are what’s best for me. It’s easy to fall into the trap of having a 10-step skincare routine with the constant release of new skincare and hearing about what other people are doing. Like I said earlier, it’s going to take time and patience in order to figure out what brings out your best skin!
Food for thought
I know appearances aren’t everything. We all have so much more to offer than the state of our skin. But for me, it’s an obstacle to overcome on my way to being confident in every aspect of myself. There is nothing wrong with caring about your appearance and wanting to look your best, despite what many people say. Everyday I can feel myself letting go of my insecurity and be confident in what I look like. Nothing happens overnight, as I think I’ve beaten to death in this post. I’ve found that confidence is the true solution to solving my skincare woes.